I do understand the appeal for the sender; there is no pressure on what to say if you’re turned down.
But as a woman, if a man doesn’t think enough of me to pick up the phone and speak with me then I’m not interested…and I hope to empower all women to feel that way. So when you first meet someone set a boundary that you want to communicate verbally.
“You’re the guy.” He had no idea that he should make the first contact.
I realize today’s women are not exactly traditional, and many of them do make the first contact.
There are many factors to consider when going into a life situation such as this.
Having some knowledge of the inner workings of this specific type of relationship can greatly increase your chances of success. If he has not allowed himself enough time to fully embrace all the emotions such a life experience evokes, there may be issues that are being repressed. John Gray, author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus," suggests that to fully release that kind of attachment, a person needs to experience the healing emotions of anger, sadness, fear and sorrow.
The host proudly offers you a free glass of "kee-ann-tee" if you order an entrée; there is a bouncer out front; the bar is packed, but the dining area is empty; there are women's undergarments stapled above the bar; the restroom is unisex; the host says there's a half-hour wait for a table. ; the menu has tassels; the winelist comes in a three-ring binder; the place has no listed phone number; the tables are so close together that the waiter has to pull them out to sit you down; it's one of Todd English's restaurants; the waiters have track marks on their arms.